1.Cherish the friends you meet and make time for them. For at the age of 30 they will be most of help to you
No one tells you this during your teens, but the people you do not lose and you remain in touch with become an important part of your life. Select friends well and treat them right, make time for them because at the age of 30 when everyone is starting to settle down, get married or be lost in their work and other responsibilities it will be much harder to make friends. The people you meet in high school and college you should strive to at least stay in touch with. Because, you will value the history and the time you shared together, the common experiences, memories and transition. Something that is already hard to find as we become older. Do not get lazy on cultivating your relationship with friends because they are very important and much more valuable than any other worldly accomplishment, learn to share and give and be compassionate.
2. Find time to Enjoy Being Alone in your 20’s
A lot of women get pressured to be in a relationship while they are still young. It results to the loss of ability to reflect on one’s life, because many tend to get absorbed with the man they are with right now. In your 20’s you have so much immaturity, you think the first few relationships that you have will define you, but it shouldn’t. Instead, take it slow and learn more about yourself, who you are, take the time to know your own mind, seek your own talent, analyze your own face. Be brave enough to live alone, for sometime so you can find yourself, and in the spaces of time when you are alone speak to God,in the corner of your room and pray that Jesus Christ finds your heart and give you wisdom and a discernment between Good and Evil.
3. Do not Rely on A Man’s Opinion About Your Self-Worth
When women are young, they tend to believe that their sense of self worth is how many men adore them or acknowledge their beauty. So they go on thinking that they should never be single, that they should always find their beauty and worth in a relationship, so they fail to grow an identity. And then they start getting crushed once the man loses his attraction for her. Do not be this type of woman, because men always change their minds. A man at a very young age and even in their 50’s have a hard time growing up themselves and have their own set of insecurities. Relying on another person to form your self-worth is a big No. When a man leaves you, your self worth should be intact, your love for yourself must always be there. it should not be dependent on how another person treats you or considers you. Partners will come and go, but you valuing yourself and having respect for your own mind and talents is the most important.
“His attention means nothing if you don’t have his respect.”
― Stephan Labossiere
4. Instead of Focusing on Hate, Pray for that Person Instead
Every woman who will live on this earth will face a number of trials and competition. There will be hurdles and people who will go against your ideas and will attempt to destroy you. But no matter what, instead of hating someone, pray for that person instead. You might not reach an agreement or a treatment that you have been so hoping for, but removing the grudge in your soul will help you carry on your days much lighter.
5. Success is not always in terms of money or being too busy
Success should be measured by the peace you have in your heart. Do not compete with the achievements of others, rather focus on what you really want to do the most and cultivate from there. Be open to taking training and learning more skills that will be useful in the future, but never at the cost of peace. Never be so busy that you cannot stop and smell the flowers nor appreciate the scenery.
6. Never be completely dependent on one person for all your financial needs.
Remember that everyone will come and go, that includes your parents, even your closest friends. Nothing will remain as is. Men will also come and go, partners will come and go especially now that you are still young. Nothing is rock solid unless instituted by God. This is why you need to learn how to earn a living, to learn how to save, earn a craft and make sure that no matter what happens you can provide for yourself and your future children so you will not be at the mercy of anyone. Anything can suddenly happen like cheating, car crash, death, divorce- or even a simple change of heart. Be industrious and patient and never allow yourself to be without an important life skill.
7. Your Personal Relationship with Jesus Christ should be Number One
You don’t even need to be a preacher in Church, not all of us are called to live the life of saints. However, each of us have been given the ability to pray, and meditate. Your relationship with Jesus Christ, and Your Love for Him is the single most important thing in Life. As a young woman, you might not yet understand the Love that could only be found in Christ, but as you go further along in life, in the many struggles and even life successes you will understand that your personal relationship with the God who created you is the most important… Read the Holy Bible and pray for wisdom so you will understand it.
8. Love and Forgive the Shortcomings of your Mother
For many women, the relationship with our mother is one of the hardest to understand. I specified mother here and not the father not because the father is not important, but as a woman the eternal connection with the one who gave birth to us is essential. You cannot fully enjoy your life and successes, and your journey if you are not able to forgive, have compassion and understanding for the one who gave birth to you- find a way in your heart to understand your own Mother and life as a woman will be good to you.