According to a research study conducted by the Journal of Family and Marriage, more and more women are unable to marry or not settling down because more men are broke in this generation. There is a huge gap in the marriage market, forcing a lot of women to postpone marriage or not get married at all.
In the United States and various parts in the world, women are finding it harder to find suitable partners to marry and it has a lot to do with the fact that men are broke. This doesn’t mean to say that that women are just looking for males who have a lot of money, its just that more women no longer see marriage as something that is economically wise. Not a lot of men right now are financially stable to raise a family, postponing the decision of women to get hitched.
The lead author of the press release Daniel Lichter explains that today there are fewer men who have a stable job and have good income. There is now what they call the man drought especially in individuals who come from low socioeconomic status. Forcing more women to get marry below their own wealth and status. Which means that if you want to get married right now, you have to select a man that is not within your standard or you will have a hard time getting married at all.
Lichter adds that unless your dream man is an Uber driver, the dearth of would-be grooms is prominent “in the current ‘gig economy’ of unstable, low-paying service jobs.”
Several studies indicate, that a lot of women are still stuck in a time warp when it comes to gender and money. We have a hard time getting past the idea that a husband should make more money than the wife, and this has a huge impact on how women choose their partner and if a couple will stay married.
We have to take into consideration that a lot of us are living in unrealistic standards. The cost of living has risen to such a point that it is impossible to get by on an average salary let alone pay for basic expenses. To have a fairy tale idea on who partners should be will give us a much harder time in finding who we should end up with.
More Women are Marrying Below Their Expectations
There are a lot of ambitious women nowadays, who have done it all. Traveling around the world, getting a degree in prestigious Universities and women who have their own businesses. It would only be natural that most accomplished women hope to settle down fora man that is also as ambitious and as accomplished as them. Perhaps a doctor, a lawyer, or a banker or someone who could afford a decent house and car. However, many women find that it is not the case, and if they want to get married they would have to lower their expectations-
A lot of women are trained to find someone wealthier, more powerful and more successful than them. But finding that there is none or very few men to fit the role, these dreams and ideals die down as women begin to accept the options available to them. Back in the day, women rely on men with higher rank and social status , and tend to marry someone with higher earning ability. But as the social changes occur, we can no longer expect to find a lot of high powered males such as this.
Women are also susceptible to fairy tales, and deep down still want to be taken cared of, rescued even. And most women still believe that men should be the one to offer financial security. But the world has changed since then. Today more and more women are beginning to realize the need to adjust their idealistic standards to fit the current society we live in. And to succeed in marriage, women need to adjust and select their husband not because they have an impressive CI, shiny car, or big earning potential rather women choose the heart, the attitude and a partner who is willing to learn and be with her side during the toughest days. In the end, women realize that love is indeed a choice, and that getting married is all about becoming conscious and not expecting a man to be there to provide to you all your emotional and financial needs-
Some say that If you work hard and he works hard and you love each other and you are respected and heard then shouldn’t that be enough. Women need to look at the priorities of the man they marry. Women should love for what is in the hands not what is in the heart and see how the man can contribute to the life of the couple independently of money.
While some would still affirm, that women should be mindful and be wise on selecting their partners. To avoid enabling a man until he becomes lazy. There should be a balance. Best of all, Pray first and ask God if the person is meant for you, its not just about following your heart or following the economic factor but asking God if the man you are with money or no money is truly the one assigned to you. Pray because in the end only God knows what is best for you.